Sunday, October 7, 2012

The Bigger Picture


I'm staring at a blank page because I just don't know where to even start. So much has happened in the past 4 weeks that I'm not sure if I can write it out, but I know that this is one of the most important things we can do right now. Write it down so we don't forget. 

The week of our adoption yard sale was a turning point for us. It was supposed to pour, hail, and thunderstorm the night before our sale. Derek got called into mandatory overtime and we had volunteers who just couldn’t make it to help set up. There were only 3 of us girls available to move over 8 truck loads of donated items including large furniture. It was looking like a disaster.  We considered canceling it, but we had so much stuff that we couldn’t store it anywhere and so many people said they were going to attend. I tried calling other locations to move it indoors, but nothing worked. Everything was falling apart.  Friends kept calling us with updated weather conditions telling us we were crazy to move forward with it, but we both felt like God was going to do something incredible and we didn’t want to miss it.  Rain or shine, God was moving.

Two days before our yard sale, I was babysitting a little guy. The reception is horrible out there so my phone never works. I heard it ding like it does when there is a voicemail, so I tried to check it, but couldn’t. I didn’t recognize the number, but it looked like it was out of the area, so I checked it against Bethany’s number and it wasn’t a match. Bummer. About an hour later I heard it ding again like it had service, so I ran to a window for better reception and listened to the voice mail. All I could understand was, “this is (static) from Bethany (static) and we need you to call as soon as you get this message.”

They must need more paper work. They always need more paper work. Maybe we didn’t sign something or filed a form incorrectly. I knew that I wouldn’t get service until I was done babysitting several hours later, so I tried texting Derek to see if he had gotten a call as well. They wouldn’t try calling both of us if they just wanted paperwork. I ran around the house trying to find a single bar of service so I could send it and then I had to stand in the same spot to wait for his reply.
15 minutes later, Derek said they did contact him and he would be calling on his lunch hour. I knew something was up. I could feel it in my gut.  It was excruciating waiting to hear what they wanted and all the while running around the house with my cell phone in the air just trying to get some reception. The little guy I was watching ran around the house with his play phone. I guess he thought it was a game!

An hour later I got the text that there was a birth mom who wanted to meet with us the very next day.  We were told her story and given the opportunity to decide if we wanted to meet with her or not. It was a match meeting call!

Wait, the yard sale. 

We told our agent that we couldn’t meet that next day because Derek had to work and that was the day we were setting up the massive yard sale.  She told us that she would try to work out another meeting time giving us a few days to pray about it. Our meeting was scheduled for the following Tuesday and the yard sale kept us busy during those 4 days. It was so hard to not spill the beans to everyone who asked us for an update during the sale. Derek and I just giggled.

So, all the while that we thought God was going to do something incredible with our yard sale, we had no idea that He was working on bringing our little one home to us. He opened our focus from a fundraiser to the reason we were fundraising. 

Monday, September 17, 2012

Rest

It's been awhile since we've been able to update everyone on our journey. Even though it's been a full week since our yard sale, we're still sore, bruised, and tired. It took a lot out of us and frankly when we came home there was more to do. We organized what we brought home, cleaned our house because we had only been sleeping there (the other times we were picking up donations!), and slept for hours! We wouldn't have changed anything! We're happy and blessed to be tired.

On a happier note, I was able to send of for our four grants and was happy to see them go. They were becoming pretty stressful, so I'm happy they are completed. All we can do now is pray!

We also know that our profile is being looked at and we are praying for our little one and their birth family while we wait. Finding a pediatrician, packing the diaper bag, and informing our employers about our current situation are all on the agenda as we sit here twiddling our thumbs.

Even though we are slightly impatient, we are really enjoying and savoring our down time because we know with one phone call that could change!

Please continue to pray for our birth mom and her family, her confidence in the adoption process and in us, our child, and that when the time comes, we would be able to bring them home.

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Yard Sale Wrap Up

Over 10 truck loads of items were donated
It was an incredible sight to see. Over 500 people came to shop through the items donated by over 30 families. The weeks of hard work and prayers paid off with what we considered to be a very successful yard sale! While the financial donations were incredible (thank you!), we loved seeing your smiling faces most of all. Old friends from high school, strangers who saw the event posted on facebook, volunteers from church, and family members all came out to support us. It was overwhelming to hear well wishes every time an item was sold and see our friends and family talking about our adoption journey with shoppers.

Used the nursery to store overflow!
It was a huge event to prepare for and our volunteers couldn't have been better! They helped us load and unload several trucks, set up tables, organize items, and tear it all down in the end. They worked their bottoms off and were paid with bug bites, bruises, sunburns, and sore muscles. When we became overwhelmed, they took control and made it happen. We could never have done something like this by ourselves and would never have wanted to do it with anyone other than them!

God moved in our lives this week. Every donation that we picked up had a story to go with it. Every time I would get online there was a new message with God written all over it. We'd never be able to list all of the incredible moments that came from our yard sale experience, but we did want to share just a few:

K and I working hard on setting things up
- A friend of Derek's came by with his mom and although he didn't find anything to purchase (I guess baby clothes and glassware wasn't his thing), he made a financial donation. But it was what he said that made me fall apart. "I'm just a college student without a job, but I saved up for weeks so that I could make this donation. I was so excited when I found out Derek was going to be a dad and I want to do my part to make sure he has a child."

- A stranger walked up to me and said, "I didn't find anything to buy but wanted to support you anyway", handing me a wad of cash.

-After adding up a large order of items, I told the lady her total and she told me it wasn't enough. She paid double.

First few hours of set up
- I was told of 3 young girls (2 of which were adopted themselves) who had heard about our adoption story and wanted to help out. They sat outside in the rain on a Saturday morning and sold lemonade. They raised $19.96 and were so proud when they handed us the envelope full of change that they had covered in hearts.

- A police man drove up the street and my heart sank. I thought for sure that we were going to get in trouble for having so many cars parked on the street, but he ended up just coming out to support us and shop with his family. He said that the word had been passed around church and he wouldn't miss this opportunity.

Our friend C with his new toy
- The day before the sale, a young man sent me a message saying that this yard sale was all anyone in his area was talking about and that someone had even posted it on the tv screens at IUS.

- There were countless times that a shopper would ask me for prices and when we came to a total it was the exact amount of money they had. They all wanted to know how I did it. I think God was just showing off.

Preparing the yard for the big day!

 The amount we raised put us close to the half way point! God is continuing to open doors as we prepare for our child to come home!






Monday, August 27, 2012

Massive Adoption Yard Sale!

We were so excited when our friends J and K offered us their yard for an adoption yard sale where all proceeds go towards our final payment. There is a lot of work involved, but we can already feel God moving! 

Here are the details:

Saturday, Sept. 8th from 8am to 4pm (set up on Friday)
317 Allison Lane in Jeff

We could use your prayers and help! We need prayers for great weather, a wonderful turn out, and lots of organizational wisdom! We're also looking for volunteers to help us with several things for any amount of time you have.

- Donations! If you think it will sell, we'll take it! We can pick it up anytime or you can drop it off on the Friday that we set up.

- Plastic bags. We'll need lots for people to carry their purchases off in.

- Tables. We already have lots of items, so we're going to need lots of tables to put it on.

-Volunteers to help us set up on Friday and man the yard sale on Saturday.

If you can help out in any way just send us a message and we'll get you the details (and big hugs!). 


Thank you so much!!!

Saturday, August 25, 2012

Preparing For Baby

Derek and I have been talking about what we can do to prepare for the little one's arrival. Although we know that it will catch us off guard, we're hoping to have as much prepared ahead of time so we can enjoy the "gotcha" process. We're putting the finishing touches on the nursery and my sweet friend is even planning a baby shower to help us prepare and celebrate (thanks A!).


Things we'd like to find out before Baby comes:

What goes in the diaper bag when you're headed to the hospital? We have no idea if they will be a boy or girl or even what size they will be in, but we know they shouldn't be naked!

What does the hospital provide? Diapers, blankets, pacifiers, formula?

We'd like to get a gift for our tummy mommy, but how do you say thank you to something this huge?

I've always thought about taking our little one to the chiropractor when they are born, but I need more info on that.

How to switch from formula to breast milk. Our little one will be blessed with donated breast milk, but I'm not sure how long that will take to set up.

Feeding/sleeping/play schedule when they finally come home. I've read books, but want to talk to more mammas to feel more comfortable.


What we do know is that Wal-Mart is just a short drive from any hospital in Indiana, so whatever we're missing they will probably have. If not, I'll get to try out my new "mom look".  Also with any adoption everything is situational, so as we get further into the process and get matched, we'll have more of these questions answered.


Wednesday, August 22, 2012

It's Official

I was cleaning out the kitchen when Derek gave me a big hug from behind and slipped an envelope into my hand. I ripped it open and started sobbing at the first line: "Your family has been approved for adoption planning!"

It finally came! Our official paperwork saying that our home study had been approved and that our profile was being shown to mommas was in my hands. We could finally shout it from the rooftops and boy, did we! Derek was on the upstairs computer and I was on the laptop. We counted down and posted our adoption picture and good news on Facebook at the same time and just stared at the screen while people blessed us with their love and well wishes. It was the moment we had talked about for years and it was finally here. What a special moment it is to share with the world that you're having a baby!

I feel like we're back on the adoption track now. I can't tell you how thrown off I was when that letter just wouldn't come. And sorry to those of you who got texts or calls from me during this time. I know I was a mess. But much, much better now!

Derek and I are having a blast knowing that it could happen at any day, but let's be honest at how scary that can be. It could be while I'm writing this blog entry or next year. We can't wait for baby to come, but hubby and I are just hoping that we can at least have grants completed and most of the funds raised before they get here. I would love to get a sneak peak of God's schedule.

What a beautiful trip!


Friday, August 17, 2012

Celebrity Adoption

Did you know these celebrities were adopted?

Jesus-Of course He was!
Nat King Cole- Singer
Elenor Roosevelt- First Lady
Aristotle- Philosopher
50 Cent- Hip Hop artist
Priscilla Presley- Wife of Elvis Presley
Sarah McLachlan- Singer
DMC- Of Run DMC
Nicole Richie- Actress
Babe Ruth- Baseball Guru
Dave Thomas- Founder of Wendy's
Deborah Henry (Blondie)- Singer
Steve Jobs- Macintosh
Marilyn Monroe-Model
Faith Hill- Singer
Jamie Foxx- Actor
Edgar Allen Poe- Author
John Lennon- Musician
Nelson Mandela- Activist
Bill Clinton- President
Eric Clapton- Musician
Snookie- Reality TV Star
Gary Coleman- Actor
Superman- Super Hero